The rise of dating apps has radically changed the way we date, mate, and hook up. Apps like Tinder and Bumble make it easy for you to look for love from the privacy of your home (or in a few stolen moments at work). The basic idea of these apps is simple: all the profiles of people in your area who are in your age range (and vice-versa) are shown to you in a “card stack,” a sequential stream of pictures and text highlighting each person for your approval. If you like, you swipe right; if you don’t like, swipe left. At the same time, those other users are swiping left or right on you. If you swipe right on one another, it’s a match, and you have the chance to chat, and even meet in real life, to see if that initial spark of interest turns into some real chemistry.
Bumble’s take on this now-standard way to date is basically just a clone of Tinder, but with one important exception: on Bumble, women have to initiate the conversation once a match is made between heterosexual couples. This is a fresh approach for online dating. Because of social norms and cultural expectations, it is men who approach women first on most dating sites. The disadvantage of this is that it requires women to sit still and wait to be approached (which is silly given that both parties have already expressed an interest via the mutual right-swipe), and – not to be too brutally frank about it – a lot of guys are clueless douchebags whose idea of a winning opening line is “wanna smash?”
On Bumble that doesn’t happen nearly as often, because the woman initiates the conversation and has a chance to set the tone. She is, of course, perfectly free to start out with “wanna smash?” but for the women who prefer something a little more gradual, this gives them the opportunity to set expectations early on, and signals the clueless douchebags that they need to go a little slower.
This woman centered approach has helped Bumble to develop a very distinct look and feel in its community of dating singles. The truly clueless tend to drop off the map and the site maintains a much higher level of perceived classiness than Tinder. This shows in one key statistic most of all: almost 50% of Bumble users are actually women, as opposed to Tinder where more than 2/3 of the site’s users are men.
However, it’s possible that this brave new world might not work for you and you prefer a different style of dating site. Different strokes for different folks, and everybody has their own needs. Possibly you’ve met Mr. or Mrs. Right on Bumble and are ready to hang up your spurs. Whether you’re tired of the dating world or have just come to the end of your own personal quest, it’s come time to delete your Bumble account and take yourself off the market. In this article, I will show you how to do that. But first…
Are you quitting because things aren’t working?
- Are you quitting because things aren’t working?
- Deleting your Bumble account
- Giving up on dating apps
Few things are more frustrating than being on a dating app, putting your best pictures on your profile, writing the wittiest bio around, only to be greeted with the sound of chirping crickets. It’s a rejection, only instead of being rejected by one person, it feels like you’re being rejected by the whole Internet. That’s not a lot of fun. But if that is the reason you want to delete your Bumble account, then perhaps you should look at giving things one more shot after a makeover of your profile and your approach to the app.
It’s easy and free to verify your account, and it greatly increases the credibility of your profile, proving that you’re not a bot. There’s literally no reason not to do it. It’s a free advantage for you; take it.
Improve the Image
Your pictures are the most important thing about your profile. This is unfair to those of us not blessed with movie-star good looks, but it’s reality. Even ordinary people can take great pictures! Ditch the selfies and have a friend (or better yet, a pro) take some great snaps. Bumble’s advisors tell us that people who use all their picture slots (six in the current iteration of the app) have better match rates than those with just one or two. One key tactic: get outside opinions about your pictures. There are picture rating sites that will put your pictures in front of strangers of the opposite sex and obtain their honest feedback. It might not be great for your ego, but it will be great for your match rate.
Your bio is a major tool in your quest for true love. Your pictures have to be good in order for people to get to your bio, but it’s easy to have great pictures and then lose matches because your bio is garbage. Be honest about who you are and what you’re looking for. If you’re funny, be funny. If you’re not, don’t fake something you can’t maintain. Write an engaging bio that gives people reasons to want to talk to you. Mention your interests, your education, your job, anything that can spark a conversation. You can’t have a conversation if no one is interested enough to start one.
Start Being Pickier
Men in particular have a habit of swiping right on everybody and then hoping for the best. On Bumble, this is self-destructive. The algorithms penalize people who swipe right on everyone by dive-bombing their standing in the card stack. If you think you’re right-swiping your way to dating heaven, you’re actually putting your profile at the bottom of the stack. Start rejecting people and you’ll get more matches.
Stop Being So Picky
I know what I just said, but this is a different kind of pickiness. Many Bumble users decide that they want someone who is 40 to 45 and who lives two miles away or less. In a huge city, that’s not necessarily a problem, but if you live in Iowa you’re cutting your dating pool by an enormous factor. Opening up the age range gives more people a chance to see your profile, and you can always reject anyone who seems too immature. Expanding your geographic range gives you a chance to meet people who might be worth the drive.
Bumble allows users to link to their Spotify accounts, so unless your music taste is just appallingly terrible (and even if it is), you should definitely make that link. Again, it’s something that your matches can talk with you about – even if it’s to tell you how Conway Twitty is terrible and you should be listening to Johnny Cash instead. (In fact, you should listen to both.)
Deleting your Bumble account
If you’ve already done all the trying you’re going to do and just want to get rid of Bumble, here’s how to do that.
If you just want Bumble off of your phone, all you have to do is delete the app. Your profile still exists and can be seen and swiped by others, but you will not receive any notifications or have to resist the urge to swipe back. If you’re planning on not being gone long, this is the way to go.
However, once you’ve deleted the Bumble app, you will be unable to actually delete your Bumble account, removing your profile completely so people cannot see it or swipe on it. This is likely by design – Bumble wants as many users, active or not, to show up in its stacks of dating profiles. So before you go uninstalling, read below for instructions on how to completely erase your Bumble account. Note also that once you have deleted your account, you will have to start over if you want to get back in the game.
As your Bumble account is linked to your Facebook account, deleting it is not as simple as you might think. You first need to break the link between Facebook and Bumble, then delete your Bumble account, then manually delete the Bumble app.
You don’t need to do this if your Bumble account isn’t linked to your Facebook, but most accounts (and all older accounts) are linked.
On your phone:
- Log into Facebook.
- Navigate to “Settings,” then “Account Settings.”
- Select “Apps” and “Logged in with Facebook.”
- Select “Bumble” and then “Remove app.”
- Confirm the removal when prompted.
On the desktop:
- Log into Facebook in your browser.
- Click the arrow in the top right corner, then click “Settings.”
- Click “Apps and Websites” in the column on the left.
- Find Bumble, and check the box next to it.
- Click “Remove,” and confirm removal.
Step Two: Deleting your Bumble account
- Open up your Bumble app.
- Select “Settings” and scroll to the bottom.
- Select “Delete account.”
- Type the word “delete” and tap Confirm.
Step Three: Unsubscribing from Bumble Boost
If you have subscribed to Bumble Boost, you will need to stop the payment from the Google Play Store or iTunes – otherwise, you will still be charged even after you have deleted your account. Both stores have a subscriptions section that should list Bumble. Select it, and cancel the subscription.
- Open Google Play Store.
- Navigate to “Account and Subscriptions.”
- Select the Bumble subscription.
- Select “Cancel” and confirm the cancellation.
- Open the iTunes & App Store.
- Select your Apple ID at the top.
- Select “View Apple ID” and then “Subscriptions.”
- Select “Bumble.”
- Select “Cancel Subscription,” and your subscription will be cancelled.
Giving up on dating apps
While more people than ever before are using dating apps, there are also more people than ever before giving up on them. Apps like Bumble and Tinder may have made dating easier, but that means the barrier to entry is lower. This has obvious downsides. Ask anyone who has used a dating app for a while, and you will likely hear the same stories of stalking, catfishing or the general unfairness of online dating.
Dating apps have made dating easier for some, but not better for all. They are designed like a game, and are often treated as such. For a subject as important as relationships, that is not a good thing. Sure, they are fun for a while – if you’re looking for casual hookups, they make them much, much easier. If you’re looking for something more serious or longer term, dating apps may not be the best approach.
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