How To Know When You Get a Match on Bumble
Bumble is one of the more successful dating apps around, and has made a name for itself by being the app where women have to message first. Bumble was created by Whitney Wolfe Herd, a former Tinder exec, in partnership with Andrey Andreev, the founder of Badoo. The idea behind Bumble was relatively simple. In American society the social norm is for men to approach women, and thus control the initiative of any conversation. In dating apps like Tinder, although either party in a heterosexual match can initiate a conversation, it is almost always the man who takes the lead. This creates a dynamic where women simply wait to be approached, and where many matches simply languish permanently waiting for either party to message first.
In Bumble, this dynamic is reversed by a straightforward rule: in heterosexual matchups, the woman is the only one who can start a conversation. After a match is generated, the woman has up to 24 hours to initiate the conversation. After that first message, the man has up to 24 hours to respond. If either party doesn’t converse within the 24 hour window, then the match is dissolved; once both parties have sent messages, then the match becomes permanent. (Either party can extend that 24-hour period by using an Extend; I’ll talk about Extends in a bit.)
This minor change created a major difference in the dating culture within the app. On Tinder, men tend to bombard women with pickup lines and the like, and the result is that women end up swiping right on fewer men simply because they have no assurance that a resulting match is going to have a positive result. When women know that they are going to be able to set the tone and the pace of the conversation from the beginning, they are more willing to open up and take a chance on a match. In addition, since the woman is able to set expectations in her initial message (by being raunchy, casual, flirtatious, funny, or whatever) then the man gets a better signal as to what kind of communication is expected of him.
As a result of this female-friendly environment, Bumble is actually a great place for men as well. A higher percentage of Bumble users are female (almost half in fact) than on other dating sites, and because the women feel in control of the conversation at the beginning, there are more matches. It’s a win-win.
However, because the site does some things differently than Tinder does, it raises some questions in the minds of the users. One of those questions is, how do you know when you get a match on Bumble? In this article I will answer that question, as well as provide some general information on how to get started on Bumble and how to make the most of your Bumble experience.
Getting Started Using Bumble
Like most dating services these days, the “face” of Bumble is the mobile app that you install on your smartphone. You can download the Bumble app from the Google Play Store or the Apple App Store and then install it. It used to be the case that you had to have a Facebook profile to register a Bumble account, but with the data privacy scandals on Facebook in recent years, Bumble (like many other social sites) reconsidered that dependency and you can now create a Bumble account using just a phone number.
If you link your Bumble account to your Facebook profile, it will automatically import your age and location from Facebook, and you can also pull photographs from your Facebook account. If you’re creating an account with just a phone number, you’ll need to add this information yourself manually. Note that you can change your age later, but it’s not automatic: you have to send in a request to Bumble support to have them do it. So while you might be able to claim “oh I made a mistake” and get an initial age change, getting additional changes later will probably be a lot more difficult. So give some consideration to what age you want to list for yourself in the app. Personally, I would go with your actual age, but that’s just me.
Your next step is to create a biography for yourself and to add images. Your bio is limited to 300 characters (about 50 or 60 words) so space is limited! You also only get to have six images, so you’ll want to make them count. Bumble will give you the opportunity to add a bunch of information about yourself, including your height, your level of exercise, how much education you have, whether you drink or smoke or use pot, whether you have pets, whether you have (or want) children, what you’re looking for on the site, and more. You can also enter in your hometown, your current residence, and you can link your Spotify and Instagram accounts to give potential matches even more information about yourself.
Whew! It’s a lot of information, but consider: the more of this information you put in your profile, then the easier it is for the right people to find you and match with you. It’s worth the investment.
Once your profile is setup, actually using Bumble is easy-peasy. Just open the app and start swiping left or right on the people you are presented with. If you like someone you see on Bumble, swipe right to match. If you don’t like what you see, swipe left. If you make a mistake, stop immediately. Bumble allows you to undo the previous swipe if you shake your phone. Unlike Tinder, which only offers this as a paid option, Bumble lets you do it for free, but you only get three backtracks every three hours, so be careful. (You can also buy more backtracks if you buy the premium tier of service.)
So Will I Know When I Get a Match?
It’s actually pretty straightforward to know that you’ve gotten a match on Bumble – the app will send you a notification on your phone. If you miss the notification, when you go into the Bumble app itself, tap on the chat notification (it looks like a little text box) in the upper-right hand corner, and your Match Queue will display. Any new matches will show there. If you’re a woman, you can go right into the chat; if you’re a man, you’ll have to wait.
If you end up having matches in your queue but the conversation doesn’t start within 24 hours, remember, the match will go away. Men and women can both Extend a match by 24 hours, although you only get one free Extend per day. (Premium tier users get unlimited matches.) This can actually be used as a signal of serious interest; if a man uses his Extend on a match where the woman hasn’t yet started the conversation, it can serve to show her that he is really interested and hopes she will initiate a chat.
If you have any tips or tricks to getting more out of Bumble, please feel free to share them with us in the comments!
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