Snapchat Friends Disappearing – Are They Deleting You?

Posted by Arch on August 6, 2019

Snapchat presents its users with a unique social experience, one that takes the idea of permanence that often comes with social networking, and tears it to shreds. Snapchat is based entirely on the idea of fading memories, photos and videos that don’t last forever and are designed to be temporary. When created with this source of time constraints, Snapchat often becomes an art form. Selfies and embarrassing videos of you and your friends become instant shares instead of being tossed away for fear of repercussions. Capturing the moment around you becomes instinctual and instantaneous instead of feeling forced or manufactured, and considering the temporality of it all, Snapchat feels effortless in its everyday use.

Of course, the more friends you have on Snapchat, the harder it is to keep track of them all. Snapchat keeps your friends list updated regularly, and updates your list of Best Friends on the platform depending on your activity on the service, putting whoever you’re in touch with the most throughout your list of eight BFFs. When people drop off your best friends list, it typically has to do with who you communicate with the most often. However, if you’re scrolling through your list of friends and realize some names are missing, you might be worried. What happened, and why did these people disappear from your list? Have they deleted you? Read on to find out.

A Few Important Facts about Your Snapchat Friends

Different social media platforms have different approaches to modeling your interpersonal relationships. For example, consider Facebook friend requests. You can only add a friend on Facebook if they consider you to be their friend too. If someone removes you from their Facebook friends list, you won’t see them on your own list either. On the other hand, you only have to click follow on Instagram to follow someone. It doesn’t have to be mutual within Snapchat, as you can add users without having them add you back. Here are some important notes about how your friendships work in Snapchat.

You Can Add a Friend Without Sending a Request

Simply find your friend based on your contacts, or based on their username or their email. Your friend will receive a notification. It’s up to them to decide whether they will add you back. They’ll stay on your list of friends even if they never add you as a friend.

Your Friends Can See More of Your Content

When someone is on your list of friends, they can see the Stories that you set to private. They might be able to see your Snap Map location, depending on your preferences. It’s up to you to decide who can Snap you and Chat you. You can choose to receive messages from anybody, or just from people you added as friends. The person sending you a Snap doesn’t necessarily have to add you as a friend.

To change your privacy, head into the settings display on your profile screen, select the gear icon in the top right corner, then scroll down to the Who Can… section of the menu. This is where you can choose who can see your stories, your location, and who can contact you on Snap. You can also decide who can see you in Quick Add, which is Snapchat’s feature for recommending new friends.

From here, tap on the category you want to change. In the case of your location and your stories, you can also grant access or remove access from specific friends at any time by using the custom menu option.

The Order of Your Friends List Changes Frequently

The order depends on how frequently your friend contacted you. So if you can’t find someone in your friends list, make sure you’re typing their name in correctly to get the right results.

What Happens When Someone Deletes You From Their List of Friends?

Here is what you can expect when someone removes you from their friends list:

    • Depending on their privacy settings, you may not be able to send them a Snap or Chat.
    • You won’t see their private Stories anymore.
    • They won’t see your content in Explore anymore.
    • You can’t see their Snap score anymore.

However, this won’t remove the person from your list of friends. So when you scroll through your list, you won’t know whether someone has deleted you.

You can check your friends list by opening your friends list up from the snap screen, then tapping on the friend you suspect deleted you. Check to see if you can see their snap score; if you can no longer see their score, they may have removed you from their friends list. However, if they aren’t deleted and you can see their full name, username, and snap score, you’ll confirm that the person is still on your friends list.

So just removing you won’t make the person disappear from your friends list. What else could be the reason behind a missing friend?

What Happens When Someone Blocks You?

On Snapchat, blocking has more consequences than deleting. When a person blocks you, you won’t be able to send them Snaps or Chats, whatever their privacy settings are. They also won’t be able to see your Stories or your location. But most importantly, it will change your friends list. After someone has blocked you, their name will disappear from your list. They also won’t appear in your recent conversations. What else does blocking do? If you want to Add a Friend, and you search for the person who blocked you, you won’t be able to find them.

What Happens When Someone Deletes Their Account?

If a friend deletes their account, their name will disappear from your list of friends. You also won’t be able to find them if you search for them. So how do you know whether you got blocked or whether the person in question deleted their Snapchat account? Follow these steps to find out.

Start by logging out of Snapchat, then creating a new account on Snap. You can borrow your friend’s account details to sign in under their name. But to be absolutely sure you’re getting the right answer, you should sign up with a new account. You can use a temporary email address to do this, such as Guerilla Mail. With your new account, search for your former contact by name or Snap username. If they left Snapchat, you won’t be able to find them. But if they have you blocked, you will be able to find them from this new account. In this case, your usual account can’t find them because they blocked it, not because they disappeared from Snapchat.


If someone disappeared from your list of friends, they either blocked you or they deleted their account. Just removing you from their friends list won’t have this effect. It can be confusing or upsetting to discover that someone’s name is missing from your list of friends. A short investigation can let you know whether the person in question blocked you or left Snapchat completely. However, if you do find out that you’ve been blocked, it’s important to respect that decision. Don’t try to get in touch with your former contact from a new account. It’s up to them to unblock you if they feel like it.

4 thoughts on “Snapchat Friends Disappearing – Are They Deleting You?”

Des says:
I used to see the bitmoji of my friend on sc then it disappeared and their name changed to their original username. A couple days later the entire person was removed from my recent snap list but when I search their name it comes up with their bitmoji and the username I set for them. I’m confused, pls help.
John says:
Des, I’m having the same issue. Have you found the solution?
lovin7b says:
Des and John, I have the same issue and cant find the answer- have either of you?
Katie says:
I was having trouble with stuff sending on my snap so I logged out and then back in and when I did someone who had recently added me only days ago was no longer added as a friend on my snap?? What caused that, was it me logging out?
Abigail says:
So I never deleted this person but I noticed their story had just ‘disappeared.’ I went to their account and could not longer see their score. I knew they had removed me but now I see them on my requests list and didn’t get notified about that or about the “request” being recent. Why is that?
Zella says:
Why would someone not be on my friends list. But still show as a friend when searched and I can still see the snap score?

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